Stuck?

Options;

1 Sometimes you don't want to work on your pattern at all, but you are much more concerned with the DEBT QUESTION.

Who is responsible for this ....

What is your responsibility ...

Is it your fault ... what can you do to make it right.

Is it the fault of the other ... What more do you want from the other ...

Then use this as a starting problem.

2 Sometimes you get stuck in the fact that you want to change it OTHERWISE.

Unfortunately .... that will not work. The speaking and doing of others may be the cause but never the cause of your feeling.

The other will only change if you change.

Look for what you have trouble with that other person.

Then use this as a starting problem.

3 Sometimes your problem provides a lot of ADVANTAGES .

You might get a lot of attention or support because you can't do something.

You don't have to do a tedious job or become a special person in the family because you "are".

It has become part of your identity.

Then use the disadvantages of this as a starting problem.

4 Sometimes your wish has to do with an ADDICTION.

Then describe what you experience when you have that experience of that use as a wish.

Your addiction is not your problem ... your addiction is how you deal with your problem.

Not that you get too much is a problem, but that you need it so much to deal with your problem .

When you are addicted, you could create help for yourself by helping someone else get rid of their addiction.

5 Sometimes a pattern is like a vortex that you just can't get out of.

Things seem complicated until you get them :)

Find someone you trust and discuss it, make CONTACT.